Friday, October 8, 2010

Baby Mama Drama

So, I haven't written anything in quite awhile. That has been deliberate. I've sort of treated this blog as a diary. And since it is really inappropriate to share your diary with the world, I took some time to reflect on that fact and decide how I felt about it. My decision- I don't care. Thankfully, being inappropriate really doesn't bother me in the least. So, here I am once again.


During my hiatus, Trotter and I have gone from being hopelessly infertile to finally seeing a glimmer of hope. Thanks to a large donation left behind by my overly generous grandma, we finally have the opportunity to pursue IVF. Before having the money to do it, I struggled with whether or not it was the right thing for us. I felt as though I may have some moral objections to face, and because of that, I wasn't sure I wanted to do it. And although those are still quietly lurking around in the back of my head, once the money was in my lap, I could have cared less about those moral dilemmas. It turns out I'm willing to suspend what I believe in, in order to get what I want. Desperation will do that to you. 

So, here we are amidst our first IVF cycle. About a month ago, I started loading myself up on the required drugs, getting myself nice and crazy. Honestly, I feel like I'm handling these meds better than I did the protocol I was on previously. Although, I am still having  "moments"- I cry during shows that shouldn't be making me cry, I get irritated VERY quickly, and all my emotions are right at the surface. But, thankfully (for the people who have to spend time around me, more so than for myself), I'm not on the same crazy train I was on before.

My egg retrieval is right around the corner. This is the part where you get excited. Things are actually starting to happen when you get to the retrieval. However, in my case, there is no excitement building as we head towards it. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, my body is not responding the way it is supposed to. Curse you stupid body! Why can't you just do what’s asked of you? I've had it with your inability to be a team player.

My body is responding so poorly, in fact, that they wanted to cancel me. Thankfully, that idea has been abandoned and we are moving forward. I go back on Saturday for another ultrasound and more blood work. I'm hoping that all these prayers will be heard and we will get different news. Otherwise, our first attempt at IVF is looking pretty bleak.

While I am all too familiar with the absence of two lines on a test, I was holding out hope that this time would be different. My optimism in the face of repeated failure is astonishing. I'm not sure where it comes from but I'm thankful it is there. Otherwise, I'm certain I would have lost my mind years ago. So, despite the discouraging news, I'm not completely abandoning all hope. I do think it is time, though, to temper that blind optimism with a little bit of reality. It makes crashing back down to earth a little less painful.

But, I also need to keep in mind that this doesn't have to be by the book perfect in order for it to work. It is comforting to know that it is out of my hands and in the hands of somone with a little more skill and experience when it comes to creating life. And He doesn't require $30k and a lab full of professionals to make it happen.  



Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Tests Suck!

So, I have a big test coming up tomorrow. Unfortunately, not the kind the requires studying. My life would be so much easier if I could study for this test. That puts the control back in my hands. If I knew my actions could control the outcome of this test, life would be so easy. However, such is not the case.

Tomorrow is 14DPO. For those not in the infertility club, that means 14 days past ovulation. Again, for those people who haven't had to learn about ovulation since 8th grade health class-- it takes exactly 14 days after ovulation for a woman to start her period. It is the time of month when my dreams are dashed and I have to start all over again.

Some months- most months- I'm confident that I'm not pregnant. I'm able to "be cool" about the whole thing. This is not one of those months. This is one of those months where I'm so confident that I AM pregnant that I don't want tomorrow to come. Tomorrow will ruin everything.

It has been a fun week feeling like I'm pregnant. To get a small taste of what I want so bad. But, sadly, my body has done this to me before. It changes and creates symptoms that make me hopeful. And then day 14 rolls around and that hope goes into the trash can along with the negative test. Tomorrow this fun week of make believe is over and I will get an uncomfortable dose of reality.

People have told me recently that now that my grandma is in heaven, she will send me a baby. Although I really like that idea, I know that isn't how it works. I don't believe God will all of a sudden think it is a good idea simply because grandma tells Him it is. He's got a plan. In His time means in His time. Even if you have someone advocating for you at His place. Although I would like to, I don't believe that is going to make it happen any sooner.

So, it all comes down to tomorrow. I feel like I should stay positive because you get what you put out into the world. If I keep saying it will be negative, than it will be negative. If I stay positive and believe this time I know the test will be positive, I think that can only help. But, I also need to protect my heart. I need a way to be let down easy. If I put all my eggs in the positive basket...then what.

Anyway, I've got less than 24 hours to still pretend to be pregnant. So, I'm done thinking about tomorrow. I'll deal with it when it gets here. But, as always, prayers are appreciated!

Sunday, June 27, 2010

The Long Barren Tunnel

So, the other day I had lunch with a dear friend. She and her husband have been through a similar struggle. They tried for years to get pregnant and after continual heartbreak, finally had success with IVF. They are now headed back into IVF to conceive a second child.


I had three real concerns about IVF. Concerns that made me unwilling to consider this option.

1. THE COST. Starting at 10k for just one cycle- not including your meds and ultrasounds, which could easily rack up another $1500- it is a prohibitive amount of money. If I had to guess, I would say the average is probably 15-20k for a successful outcome.

2. THE DRUGS. Fertility drugs sent me into a tailspin like nothing I have ever experienced before. It was shocking to me how little control I had over my emotions. It made me a different person and I did and said things completely out of character for me. It took me a long time to get back to "normal" and I feel like taking the meds actually did more harm than good in my struggle to conceive.

3. THE LEFTOVERS. So, when you go through the IVF procedures, they can't (shouldn't) implant all the embryos. Say they retrieve 5 eggs and they are able to fertilize all 5. Someone like me, who has limited complications and would have a fairly high chance of success should only have 1-2 embryos implanted. What happens to the other 3? They will freeze them and save them to use if the first transfer isn't successful or use them for the next time you want to conceive. But, what if we are done after this first child? What happens to those 3? They are no less my children than the ones the doctor implanted.

Since my friend had been through all this before, I told her about my 3 concerns. After speaking with her, I am much more open to the idea of IVF.

The clinic she goes to actually has a program where you get 70% of your money back if you don't come home with a child. That eases that concern. I would spend every dime I have if I knew with absolute certainty it would give me what I want more than anything else in the world. The hard part of IVF is there is no guarantee. You can spend all of your money (and everyone else’s) and still be in the same childless boat you arrived in. That is scary. Knowing this clinic will give you a substantial portion back makes me feel a bit better about it.

I also learned that the medication protocol with IVF is different and less severe than the medications I was on previously. Despite my inability to conceive, my body works the way it is supposed to. I am able to ovulate every month; I naturally produce the hormones (at the appropriate level) necessary for follicular growth and to induce ovulation. My doctor had me flooding my body with an excess of synthetic versions of what my body was already producing. It seems that may not be the case with IVF or at least with this clinic.

And finally the biggest problem of the three. What to do with the extra embryos? Chances are, if there were excess embryos, Trotter and I would save them and use them in our next attempts to get pregnant. However, if God sees fit to give us multiples (which I am leery of and Trotter is excited about) and we decide we do not have the money, patience or desire to add to that chaos, then we are left to decide what to do with these frozen embryos. Our only choice would be to donate them. That is the right thing to do. However, I'm totally uncomfortable with it. Does that make me a selfish baby? Yes. But, I can't help it. The idea of someone else having my kids seems wrong. Would I constantly worry/wonder what became of them? Yes. But, I have to assume if someone is going to go through the expense of IVF they are normal decent people and are as desperate for a child as I am. What better thing to give to someone.

Ugh, I just thought of a new issue. What if my potential child meets and falls in love with my other potential child/donated embryo and it isn't until they have a horribly disfigured child that they realize they are actually brother and sister! My mother says I like to worry so much that I invent things to worry about. But this is a valid concern! I'll just tuck this away in my mental IVF "against" column.

Despite the new issue, I am actually starting to lean towards the idea of IVF after years of saying I don't want to do it. Trotter and I go back to the doctor July 13th. Based upon what he tells us about some other concerns we are facing, that will be what helps us decide whether or not we take a deeper look at IVF.

Just as a side note, I do realize airing all my business on the internet is weird, inappropriate and totally devoid of class. However, I like it. I find it cathartic. And the only people who read this are people who usually know all my business anyway. So, whatever.

I can't remember what I said in my last blog. Once I get it out of my head and throw it up on the internet, it is gone forever. But, I know it was about changes in my life. I am still motivated, like no other time in my life, to lose weight and get my body in a healthy place. So, I'm going to continue with that, continue to cut out the toxins in my life, go on vacation next week and then come back refreshed and ready to hear what the doctor says.

It is really exciting to finally be considering IVF. Did you know the very first IVF baby's birthday is December 28th. That's my birthday. Perhaps that is a sign. Based on research, I would have about a 50-65% chance of success. Compared to the 17-20% success rates of the other procedures, that makes me feel very optimistic. Like this painful journey may be coming to an end. I see a speck of light at the end of this barren tunnel. Thank God for that!

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Mid-Year Resolutions

As I've mentioned before, my grandmother had a profound impact on my life. So, it only stands to reason, that her death would have an equally profound effect. Since her death, I've done a lot of self reflection and I'm not really happy with what I see.


I have the kind of personality where I love to focus on the negative. Remember the Garbage song "Only happy when it rains"? That song adequately sums up my personality. I'm a pessimist. I focus on the bad in people instead of the good. Anger and pain are much more comfortable to me than joy and happiness. What a miserable way to live your life. What a waste.

I'm an not a metaphysical person. What was that book? The Secret? Ya, I'm not into all that. But, I have noticed that what you put out into the world is what you get back. You put out negativity and that is all you get back. You think positive and positive things happen.

I'm not all that good at changing. People of my personality type (Capricorn, Melancholic, Type A- whatever you want to call it) never are. Though, I have noticed when I have to make a change, if I pretend long enough it becomes real.

In my early 20's, I got fat. Other than a brief chubby period around 5th-6th grade, I had never been fat. My entire sense of self was wrapped up in how I looked. All of a sudden, I didn't know how to interact with people. If I wasn't cute, why would they be nice to me? I became very socially awkward. Honestly, I was probably pretty socially awkward before I got fat. However, I must have distracted them with my skinny-ness because no one ever seemed to notice.

Once I got fat, I couldn't get by just on looks anymore, I had to have a personality and actually (shriek) speak to people. It was a nightmare come to life. It isn't that I don't like people, I just don't have anything to say. But, then people think you're rude and aloof. So, I had to force myself to talk to people. I had to learn small talk. I had to pretend like I was comfortable with all of it...and eventually I really did get comfortable with it. I don't have the kind of social anxiety I used to have. I pretended long enough that now I'm actually comfortable with who I am. I have a new identity- one that isn't tied to the way I look.

Using that same mindset, I'm going to make serious changes in my life. Things that will make me a better wife, daughter, sister, aunt and friend. I will fake them until they become part of who I am. These are kind of like new year's resolutions, but in the middle of the year.

So, here are my mid-year resolutions:

1. I am going to make the choice to think differently. I want to be a more positive person. I realize this will devastate my sense of humor, since all I have is sarcasm. But, I will have to figure that out as I go.

2. I want to be a better wife. Rather than focusing on what I would like to improve in him, I need to focus on the things that make me so fortunate. I really have an outstanding husband and it is time I recognize that.

3. I want to break my addiction to chapstick. Not exactly life altering, but still a change that needs to be made. I think they lace chapstick with heroin.

4. I want to love myself. If someone compliments me, I think of 10 reasons why they are wrong. Until I feel like I deserve it, I will never stick to a new diet or exercise plan. The way I sabotage myself is pathological. It is time for that to end.

5. I want to wake up energized every morning and with the positive outlook I need to conquer all the things I want to do.

6. I want to detoxify my life. I will try to be at least 80% organic. I will switch all my cleaning and beauty products to safe versions as well. If you have ever read about all the poisons in the stuff we use and eat everyday, you would be horrified and less shocked when yet another person you know develops cancer. I've started and stopped this 100 times. Time to get serious.

It would make me feel better to have an even 10. I could probably make up 4 more, but they wouldn't be sincere. So, I'm stopping here. All of this seems overwhelming because they are just ideas and not concrete plans. I just need to choose different. Make a different choice each day- everyday, until it becomes a natural part of who I am.

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Grief and other such emotions

My grandma, who had a huge hand in shaping who I am, passed away on Wednesday. People lose grandparents all the time. You feel sorry for them for a minute and then you go on. You don't really consider the gaping hole that has been left in their lives. I'm as guilty of that as anyone. It isn't until it happens to you that you expect everyone to be as devastated as you are.


I didn't have one of those grandma's who live somewhere else and you only see them on holidays. I've seen her nearly every day of my life. She was an integral part of our family.

It has been a difficult week. Since last Friday, when she started refusing food and water, I started having difficulty sleeping, eating and started getting sick every time I did try and eat. Because I knew we were headed toward the end and I wasn't ready for it. I'm not very good at showing emotion. The control freak inside of me hates to cry in front of people. I stuff it all down, which is probably why I'm having such physical reactions to the grief.

On Wednesday afternoon, I stood by her bedside, held her hand, and watched her take her last breath. It was such an overwhelming experience that it almost feels surreal- like I dreamed it.

But, today is Sunday and I'm starting to come out of that fog. I've just kind of been a robot going through the motions of each day. I try to be as strong as I can during the day when I'm with everyone and then spend all night crying. However, the funeral was yesterday, that was the last stressful event in this horrible process. Now we just start to pick up the pieces.

As I'm coming out of this fog, I'm noticing my devastation and heartbreak are turning to anger. I realize this is a stage of the grieving process, but I'm surprised at how quickly I got there. It is probably because anger is such a comfortable emotion for me. I prefer it to sadness. It puts me back in control. Immediately after the funeral, I was in a rage. We hadn't even left the cemetery yet. It took the car ride from the cemetery to the church for me to work through who exactly I was angry with- people I thought were my friends. At that point everything was over, there were no more chances for these people to come through.

I don't feel as if I expect too much out of people. I don't expect people to treat me any differently than I treat them. When someone I consider a friend suffers such a loss, I do what I can. I always send flowers, cook or show up at the viewing. Sometimes all three. Even if I don't know the person who's gone, I do it for the ones left behind.

There are a handful of people I'm upset with. People I know knew about what had happened to my grandma, people who knew her very well, and also people I assumed were good friends. I think this made it very clear where I stand with these people. Maybe we were not friends the way I thought we were? So, it made it very easy for me to delete two of them- not only from facebook- but from my life overall. Done. I really want to delete the rest of these people, but I'm not. These people I certainly no longer consider a friend, however, I can easily shift them to casual acquaintances- who I probably don't like, but have to see occasionally.

If my grandma felt like someone hurt me, she hated them right along with me. So, I'm done with these people. My emotions are all at the surface right now. I'm raw. So, perhaps, I will regret this at another time. But for now, I'm cutting my circle of friends way down. Two people in particular I have cut out completely and about 10 more have been bumped from someone I consider a friend to just acquaintances.

My cousin, Judy, put it very well. She said you're world has stopped and you can't imagine how there's is still going on. So, I'm resisting the urge to be mad at people who owed me nothing who have gone one as if nothing happened. Because I've noticed the couple times I've gotten on FB since last Friday, I'm irritated with the stupid things people talk about. I recognize that is irrational and I put myself in check immediately. But, being mad at these specific people, referenced above, that is real and valid and I won't apologize for it.

I have my family, my husband and a best friend. That's all I really need. Honestly, that's all I can handle right now. So, if I withdraw from you, even though you really were there for me this past week, I apologize in advance. I just need to escape from life for awhile and try to heal. Life is kind of difficult for me right now. I feel like I'm starting a new chapter in my life, one without someone who had a huge hand in raising me, and I'm not sure what that life will look like. I need to go away, figure it out and find a way to put things back together.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

The things you don't learn in school

Next Monday, my niece, Taylor, will turn 17. She only has a couple weeks left of her Junior year. Pretty soon she will be a Senior and then off to college and adulthood. I've been reflecting on the wisdom I need to share with her before she leaves the protection of home and heads out into the world. Things every young lady should know. Things that I learned the hard way...or learned from watching Judge Judy/Dr Phil. I've decided to post these publicly, incase someone else needs to learn these as well.



1. Never co-sign for anyone. Relative, friend or boyfriend...especially boyfriend. Your credit is an important commodity. Don't trust someone else with it.

2. Never get a credit card. If you must, wait until you are at least 30. Before 30, you don't have the maturity or restraint to avoid maxing them out. Clothes, shoes and purses are fun- paying for them for 20 years is not.


3. Never choose a boy over your family. If your family thinks he's a bad choice, turn and run in the other direction.


4. Your parents know more than you. They will always know more than you. No matter how old you are- this will never change.


5. Never go on a second date with a man who is rude to the waitress. Eventually he'll treat you the same.


6. Love isn't a good enough reason to get married. You will fall in and out of love more than once in your life. Marriage isn't easy and it takes more than love.


7. Life isn't fair. The sooner you learn that, the happier you'll be. That one is from grandpa. I heard it all the time growing up, but it took a long time for me to understand it. To translate- don't dwell on the fact something is unfair and don't convince yourself you are a victim because unfair things happen to you. You just have to accept it and move on.


8. You don't have to win every argument you get in to. Backing down, even if the other person is wrong, doesn't make you weak. It makes you mature. But NEVER let someone walk all over you. That is a fine line. But the older you get, the easier it is to find.


9. ALWAYS apologize when you are wrong. It is the difference between being a mature, decent adult and being a perpetual baby. Remember- It's okay to be wrong. You look like more of a fool explaining why you weren't wrong than you do apologizing and moving on


10. Don't let failures or bad men leave you jaded. Things always get better.


11. Determination is the key to success. That sounds like a cliché, but it is true. If you want something, don't stop till you get it. Laziness gets you nowhere. You are entitled to nothing.


12. We treat you as if the sun shines out of your ass. When you get into the real world, others will not find every little thing you do as spectacular as we do. Don't let it affect your confidence.


13. You will eventually reach an age when it is no longer acceptable to wear jeans so long you step on the back of them. Once you are out of college, you are too old. Find a good tailor.


14. It is never okay to be cruel to someone.


15. Never trust anyone who doesn't like dogs.


16. Manners matter!! Another cliché, but so so true. Nothing will make you look like a redneck more than poor manners. If you are in a situation in which you are unsure of the proper etiquette, here are the bare bones to manners- be polite, put a napkin on your lap, chew with your mouth closed, say please and thank you, offer your seat to pregnant/elderly women, and always hold the door for people. Even if you never learn everything about proper etiquette, you will do fine in life just remembering the things above.


17. Don't let TV/movies cause disillusion and unhappiness in your life. No man is like the men on TV. They have writers creating their persona. These characters are not based off of real men. The sooner you learn that, the better off you'll be. Just like you, they are flawed. It is good to have high standards, but keep them reasonable.


18. Never let a man keep you from your friends. If he wants to, there is something wrong with him.


19. Never let someone convince you that you aren't smart enough, good enough or qualified enough to do something you want to do. You have the skills to do anything you set your mind to.


20. When you find a good man, treat him well. They aren't easy to come by.


I think that is enough to get you through HS and College. After you graduate from college, start a career, and get married- I will have a lot more widsom for you! Happy Birthday, Taylor Nicole! :)

Friday, April 16, 2010

5 Things You Should Never Say to the Infertile Woman

I'm having a bad day today. The past few weeks have been a struggle. Actually, the past 5 years have been a struggle. However, these past few weeks it's all I can think about.


My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 5 years now. It is weird. It seems like it hasn't been that long and seems like a 100 years- all at the same time. We've had every test known to man and there isn't a thing wrong with either of us.

We've tried everything but IVF at this point- all the at home cures, fertility drugs and procedures, and lastly Chinese medicine. I have to say the Chinese medicine has been my favorite so far. It has been the only one where I actually felt like I was helping my body rather than poisoning it.

Chinese medicine focuses on healing your entire body and restoring it rather than just focusing on the area of concern and forcing it to work with pills like Western medicine usually does. A Traditional Chinese Medicine physician would tell me that I am not getting pregnant because my body is a hostile environment not conducive to carrying a child. I still believe that, but I've abandoned the TCM now too. I thought taking the herbs, doing the acupuncture, following all the TCM rules about a yang deficiency would magically fix my problem. I don't like to wait for things. So, I try for a short time and then quit. So, now I've given up on that too.

Right now I'm trying (emphasis on trying) to eat a healthy balanced diet in the hopes that I'll lose weight and that will be the magic cure. However, for whatever reason, it doesn't matter what I do, the weight never comes off. I am not meant to be a fat person. I still think like a skinny person- whatever that means- she's still in my head. And I'm always confident that the next diet or next exercise regimen will bring that skinny girl back out to the public. But, I haven't been successful so far and I've spent the last 10 years fat. So, I should probably just resign to the fact this fat girl is here to stay.

But, losing weight is my last magic cure to have a baby. So, what do I do? Sit here and continue to spin my wheels in lose weight mode or just give up completely? Waste even more time. I'm 34, the clock is ticking. Women lose 90% of their eggs by the age of 30. By the time they hit 40, they only have 3% left. I'm right in the middle of those two statistics. If I hope to have more than 1 child, I better find that magic fix...and soon!

I'm not ready for IVF. I'm not a fan of the fertility drugs. I am trying to avoid going back on them at all costs. You need them for IVF. My second issue with IVF- the costs. Is it really a smart decision to spend all that money when there isn't anything wrong with either of us? If we were given a definitive diagnosis and were told it was absolutely necessary, I would feel differently. I just can't accept that we need IVF.

I pray all the time for the answer, but I just can't find it. I think I'm forcing my own will in place of God's. I have a picture of how I want things to be and it is hard for me to accept anything that falls outside of that. I don't feel like IVF is right for us and I don't want to adopt. There has to be another solution and I'm still waiting for God to make that clear to me. I know He feels my pain, so it is hard for me to understand why He is making me wait so long. But, just because I don't understand it, doesn't mean it isn't the right thing. So, I will continue to wait for that answer- as long as it takes. Even though days like today kinda suck.

Some helpful information for those of you who have friends or a family member going through a similar struggle. As a public service to these women, I will provide a list of things never to say to them. Although I am by nature a fairly intolerant person, these things below don't usually send me into a rage. I understand when people empathize with you, they really want to find something comforting to say. You can't be mad at them for that. But, just so you know, these things could cause you to get your eyes scratched out by a less understanding infertile woman. Just a warning.


1. " Just Relax". I have no control over the fact that I can't have a baby. I'm not causing it. But, thanks for implying that I am. Just relax is stupid. And so is any variation of it, "Just go on vacation" etc etc.



2. "We have the opposite problem. If my husband even looks at me, I get pregnant." Ohhh, is that what we are doing wrong!?! I didn't realize he only had to look at me!? It should be legal to hit those people. News flash: that is a cruel thing to say to someone who can't get pregnant.



3. "Why don't you just adopt" Because I'm not ready to give up my dream. Why don't you just quit your job and become a carnie?



4. "Quit trying and then it will happen" or "Stop thinking about it and it will happen" Obviously spoken by someone who has never gone through this struggle. "Hey, you have cancer? Aww well, stop thinking about it. It will go away." Not anymore logical to assume it works on infertility.



4. "Oh, I understand, it took us X amount of months to get pregnant." No, you don't understand. Spending months trying to get pregnant is frustrating. Spending years trying to get pregnant, changes who you are.



5. "Take mine" Thanks, but I don't want your kids. I probably don't even like your kids. Ok, that one was mean. But, it made me smile a little bit.

Friday, April 9, 2010

Don't Squeeze the Charmin

So, I don't normally watch commercials. Thanks to the greatest invention of our time- TiVo- I am no longer forced to watch the stupid crap these companies churn out. However, there are times when it can't be avoided- at other people's houses, while watching live sporting events, etc. So, I feel the need to call out those commercials that are especially annoying.



- Those freaking Charmin bears. Bring back Mr Whipple, please!! I HATE those bears! Their most recent commercials are very disturbing. It focuses on Charmin's ability to leave no specs of toliet paper behind. In my 34 years of life, I have never had left over toilet paper stuck to my butt. Is this really a problem for people? So much so, that they have an entire ad campaign devoted to it? I don't get it and I find it annoying.


- The Stanley Steamer commercial where the dog rubs his butt across the floor. No one likes it when their dog does that, but really woman? She screams TOBEY as if the dog is mauling her kid. He's scooting his butt on the floor, not ripping your kids arms off. Perspective please.


- That new Croc's commercial that talks about how they massage your feet. Those little computer generated orange blobs with faces that massage that woman's feet scare the hell out of me. I'm not sure why, but they are terrifying. Please remove that commercial from circulation.


- Flo! I know people like her. She is slightly amusing. But, I've had enough of her. If we have to have their commercials, I guess I'll take more of the gecko or the cave men. Wait...is that even the same company? Hmph...well who cares. Their commercials are all lost on me.


- Go Daddy commercials. I'm sure I am not their target demographic. Perhaps that is the problem. I understand that big boobs and sexual innuendo get men's attention. However, if you are going to do it, do it like the beer commercials used to. It is less offensive. And really...Danica Patrick is not that hot.


- The Unique Doors and Windows guy that buys the entire hour during Dr Phil. I TiVo Dr Phil daily. So, I don't know what this guy says because I am usually watching him in fast forward. But, fast forward does not erase the image of his helmet hair from my brain. Get a haircut, Blago!


-Extenze Male Enhancement. I'm fairly certain this product focuses on increasing size rather than fixing ED- although they never come right out and say it. I have alot of issues with these commercials, the most disturbing- Jimmy Johnson is their spokesperson. Really!?! Jimmy Johnson!?! He's like 100. Who wants to hear their grandfather talk about his junk? Not this girl!


-Speaking of male genitalia. I hate that Viagra commercial where the guy talks to his reflection about his ED problem on the way to the doctor. Can you imagine how horrifying this is for the person on the other side of the window!? Boys- if you are going to discuss ED with yourself- stick to your bathroom mirror.


- Lawyers & Plastic Surgeons. If you have to advertise during Judge Judy- you probably suck. Save your money, no one is interested.


I'm sure as soon as I post this, I will think of 100 more. But, I'm going to stop because I'm noticing a theme. Alot of body parts involved in the commercials above.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Sound the bell. School's in, sucka

I heard Can't Touch This on the radio today and decided that line of the song would be a very fitting title.

So, awhile back, I decided to keep my FB status politically neutral. I've done a good job, but my head is about to explode. It turns out, it is bad for my health to remain non-offensive. I have a big mouth and alot to say. So, here are all the things I've been holding back since January.

1. Welcome to the age of pharma-driven government-run healthcare you mindless bunch of sheep. All are going to suffer so a few can prosper. So, so wrong. We had free healthcare. Its called Medicaid.  Now we are all going to have crappy rationed healthcare. Thanks Democrats!

2. If you can't tell me why you love Obama without referencing SNL, Family Guy, or free stuff- go back to your hole and quit voting. You are useless to society and we would all be better off if your equally ingorant parents hadn't reproduced.

3. I will light myself on fire if John Mellencamp run for or wins any election. Being a loudmouth musician qualifies you for nothing other than being a loudmouth musician. If having a lot of opinions makes you ready to run for the senate, than sign me up. Btw, Mellencamp- why don't you quit smoking because your child wants you to, rather than making him get a million people to join your FB group. Just saying...that's pretty awesome parenting.

4. Charity should not be a government mandate. I believe in charity and I give to the causes that are important to me. But, I hate funding social programs that do more to enable the lazy, than to help the needy. When my grandma was young, if someone had to go on welfare, they were mortified. They would work as hard as they could to get back on their feet and become self-sufficient once again. Sadly, those days are gone. People no longer want a hand up, they want a hand out.

5. You cannot be a Bible believing Christian and be pro-choice. They are contradictory. If you think God condones abortion, you may want to re-read your Bible. You may have missed something.

6. My grandmother's generation really was "The Greatest Generation." They earned that title. They know what it is like to have nothing, they understand patriotism and how important it is to be united and make sacrifices in war time, and they have never felt entitled a day in their life. Each generation since has just gotten progressively worse. Teach your kids the right things and hold them accountable!

7. If you can't name the speaker of the house, the senate majority and minority leaders and discuss at least one relevant current affair, I probably hate you.

8. To those I probably hate: I think it must be nice to have no opinion. To just sit back and see what happens because you trust the nation is in good hands. To be completely carefree and just live your life.  It would probably cause me far less stress, far fewer enemies and would allow me to sit back and be fat, dumb and happy- as my grandmother would say. Stupid above average IQ!

9. Al Gore is the most ridiculous person on the planet. Well, he's at the top anyway. Global warming is a load of crap. If you believe it, read my previous post "An Inconvenient Truth." Get the facts and quit listening to what the TV tells you to believe. The TV is lying to you! If you say the words carbon footprint to me, you will probably get a roundhouse to the head. That is if I could do a roundhouse. Ok, fine, but I would totally do it in my mind!

10. Although I do love gossip magazines, I despise most celebrities. Something about becoming famous alters your perception of reality and causes you to have delusions of grandeur. I'm certain I am not only a better person than most, if not all, celebrities I'm about 25 IQ points smarter. So, quit telling me what to believe, what's right and what's wrong. You know less than I do.

11. All through the Bush administration we heard, "Dissent is the highest form of patriotism." It seems the Dems don't feel that way now that they are in power. They have chosen to mock the "tea-baggers" rather than applaud their patriotism. Funny how that works. Btw, if you think Thomas Jefferson said that then you are an idiot. It was said by a liberal historian who apposed the war on terror.

12. Do what you want with the people in Gitmo, but don't let them go. Keep them where they are, send them to a Mexican prison where they will be malnourished and find out what abuse really is, waterboard them until they die. I don't really care. But, so help me, if they release the 9/11 mastermind- who will no doubt, set out to kill us once again- I am seceding from the Union. Trotter and I will start our own country on our 5 acre plot of land. People attempting to immigrate illegally will be shot on site. Unless you have Girl Scout cookies. Those sound really good.

So, I feel better. I'm sure I've offended a good number of people- democrats, pro-choicers, Mexican prisons- and it felt good.

If I offended you, I'm probably not sorry.

I'm going to leave you with the wise words of my father, "The government is so corrupt, it makes the mafia look like a church group."

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

I want to punch Jillian Michaels

Okay, so not really. Because...I'm kind of afraid of her. But, this morning, I was really thinking about it.

After a month of procrastination, I finally started Jillian's 30 day shred. With only 31 days until we leave for Spring Break, I have not a moment to waste.

I was at Target one day to buy the Shake Weight- awesome purchase, I know. As I was perusing their work out stuff, I saw that Jillian's 30 day shred was only $10. In big letters across the front it says you can lose up to 20lbs in 30 days. Since I weigh twice as much as Jillian, I took that to mean lose AT LEAST 20lbs in 30 days. So, I bought it.

The idea behind this is circuit training. It is a total of 20 minutes. You do 3 minutes of strength training, 2 minutes of cardio and 1 minute of abs.

Since I am a master procrastinator- especially when it comes to exercise. I waited until I had only 30 days left to complete it. So, today is day 1 of 30.

I got on my exercise clothes, got out my yoga mat and weights and I was ready to go. I quickly realized there is some sort of disconnect in my head- I think I can do anything. There are very few things I think I can't do. This is thanks to a very supportive mother. She thinks I'm good at everything, so I believe her. I went into this workout thinking it was going to be a breeze. I can do anything for 20 minutes! Wrong!

Got through the warm up and was already breathing heavy. This wasn't boding well. Did my 3 minutes of strength- burned, but I did it. Barely got through my 2 minutes of cardio and learned that I need a better sports bra. I spent those 2 minutes trying to figure out if these girls had fake boobs or if their bras were just made out of steel. Why don't their boobs move? While doing the jumping jacks, I had to hold onto mine because they felt like they were going to fall off. This was a $50 sports bra from Dicks! Where do you find a better one? Do they make sports bras for girls with big boobs? The boob discussion going on in my head was interupted by Jillian as we moved down to our mats for abs. I was thankful to be able to lay down. Made it through the 1 minute of abs and was ready to do the cool down, only to realize this wasn't the end- there were 2 more sets to go. We had to start all over again. I was hoping the workout was only that 6 minutes and the other14 would be filled with warm up and cool down. No such luck. So, I started round 2 and thought I was going to die. Made it through another 6 minutes of strength, cardio and abs. When they got up to do the 3rd set. I stayed parked on my yoga mat, a hot panting mess. I decided I would let them finish it out on their own and I would just lay there and watch.

I eventually recovered enough to get up and head to the shower. My body had turned to jello. I had no control over my limbs. Managed to take a shower, brush my teeth and put clothes on. Don't ask any more of me today.

I know what is coming. Days of being unable to move without pain. Since I think Trotter would be unwilling to push me around in my grandma's wheelchair for the next couple days, I need to think of something. I'm going to force myself to keep moving- so the lactic acid doesn't get a chance to accumulate.

After lunch today, I'm going to head downstairs and get on the Eliptical for about 20 minutes. Just enough to warm my muscles up. Then when I get home tonight, I'm going to do a light workout on my Wii. I'm hoping if I keep this up for a couple days, I will be able to get through this 30 workout remaining upright and mobile.

I'm expecting big results. We leave for Spring Break March 27. I want to lose 30lbs in 30 days. Lofty goal, I know. But, when you weigh as much as I do, I think it should be within the realm of possibility.

Last year, April and I were going on our family vacations a week apart. So, we spent almost 3 months in the gym before we left doing 2 hour a day work outs. I lost 10lbs in that 3 months- crap! I was so frustrated. I cancelled my membership when we got back and haven't stepped foot back in there.

It all comes down to me though. Throughout my life, I have perfected the art of half-assery. Especially when it comes to diet and exercise. I never do both at the same time. I convince myself that if I'm working out, I can eat the things I want. And when I'm restricting my calories, I convince myself that is enough and I don't need to work out. Well, I'm trying to break that. I am going to do it all. Diet, exercise, supplements- all at once. We'll see what happens!
I will report back on my progress and the success of the 30 day shred- but only if it is good news. If I quit or if I don't lose as much as I want to, I will never speak of this again.

Monday, February 22, 2010

Reppin My Hood

So, driving in my car today I caught a glimpse of one of those huge drain pipes that run under the street. After seeing the drain pipe, I started thinking back to growing up in Northern Acres where I would play in such a drain pipe. The neighborhood was like an amusement park. There were always awesome things to do! Playing in the drain pipe was just one of them.

I can remember carrying my boom box on my shoulder (because I had recently seen the movie Breakin) and listening to my Kool and the Gang tape, walking down to New Jenean- as it was known to us Northern Acre-ers- to play in the drain pipes with my friends.


Cynthia, Pepper & Jodi
             
A little bit of background, the neighborhood was huge, or at least seemed that way when I was a kid.  My best friend was Cynthia Cottrell. Her and I were at a bit of a disadvantage when it came to playmates. Our part of the neighborhood, on Acre Ln,  was ruled by boys. Her two brothers, Matt Wagley, the Nash's who lived next door to me and some boys that would come over to the Nash's from Starkey. Boys who were usually mean to us. Here is a short list of some of the things I had thrown at me- rocks, different varieties of bugs, a dead snake and live firecrackers. The firecrackers were thrown at me by Eric Nash. They actually blew a hole in the bottom of my Strawberry Shortcake nightgown- not sure why I was outside in the middle of the day with my nightgown on- but this probably explains why I am afraid of firecrackers to this day. Anyhow, Cynthia and I adapted and played boys games- which involved climbing around in this drain pipe. On occasion, Cynthia and I got to act like girls and play with Barbies. But, it was in secret, under my dining room table, lest it be discovered that we were actually girls who enjoyed doing girl things!

The drain pipes fed into a ditch that was full of cattails. Which, by the way, is where I thought corn dogs came from for most of my childhood. Thankfully, I didn't like corndogs, so I never attempted to eat one of these out of the ditch.

Playing in the drain pipe was great! We would walk down this enormous hill, down into the ditch. Then we would crawl around in the drain pipe until it got boring. Or until I ran out crying because one of the boys had kicked the drainage water at me. There were crayfish and leaches that lived in there. Well, there were rumored to be leaches in the drain pipe. I never actually saw one. But, the fact that it was possible made the drain pipe a scary and awesome place.

On the way back to Acre Ln from the drain pipe, we would stop off in one of the courts. The Gardners, my parent's friends, lived next door to a house with a trampoline. These nice people would let every kid in the neighborhood jump on their trampoline. Today, it wouldn't be possible because someone's parent's would sue when their kid fell off. But back in the 80's, it was all good. They had a big apple tree right next to the trampoline. The goal was to jump as high as you could and pick the apples at the top of the tree.

My sister was responsible for babysitting me during the summer. I was in elementary school and she was in high school. So, instead of hanging out with her friends- she was stuck at home with me. I stayed outside most of the time, but sometimes we would come inside to watch TV. Cynthia and I would want to watch "Today's Special" on Nickelodeon and Stacey would want to watch General Hospital. But, we had a rule in the Bratcher house- whoever was sitting in the green chair (which now resides in my house) gets control of the TV. It was always her. So, defeated, Cynthia and I would head back outside.
Stacey was also responsible for serving us lunch. My dad bought cans of Zooroni by the case, as that was my favorite and I ate it everyday. However, Cynthia and I would still sit at the dining room table and make Stacey get a notebook and pen and take our orders. Playing restaurant was fun for us, not sure why it wasn't for her?


Cynthia lived next door to an empty lot. Between that lot and the next house, there was a ditch with a hill on both sides, so when we would get a considerable amount of rain it would fill up- like a redneck swimming pool. Cynthia and I and the other kids, would put on our bathing suits and grab a raft and play in the flooded ditch for hours. Looking back, it is really disgusting. But, we didnt know any different. Not only did we not have a pool, we didn't have a sprinkler to play in either. Our only option was spraying each other with freezing cold water from the garden hose. So, the warm water in the ditch was a welcomed change.

We had an old radio out in our garage. No stations would come in and it always had the same Toto 8 track stuck in it. Sometimes, Cynthia and I would put on our roller skates (Strawberry Shortcake with red wheels) and skate around the garage listening to Rosanna. Everytime I hear that song, it reminds me of roller skates.

Ignore the dork and the Mustang. The court behind me is where Snow Mountain was in the winter

Winter time was even better. When it would snow, the plows would push all the snow into the center of Kenneth Ct, right across from my house. We always ended up with a mountain of snow. I don't really know how tall it was, but it seemed like it was 50ft high. The boys would always climb to the top. I was too afraid. But, I would climb as high as my fear would let me and then hop on my sled and head down towards the pavement. Snow mountain was the greatest.
 One winter my dad tied the sleds to the trailer hitch on the van and pulled us around the neighborhood. Again, not something you could get away with now, but it is my favorite sledding memory.

When we got a lot of snow, we would go over to Betty Happ's house. The snow would make huge drifts in her yard up against the Comers' fence. We would dig out tunnels and make snow forts in her yard.

Also, in the winter, the corn field behind us- which I believe is now Highland Springs- would freeze over. You could go out there and slide around like you were ice skating. The corn field belonged to Mr Gosh. The only time I was allowed in it was in the winter. During the summer, my parents had warned me that I could get lost in the corn and there were big machines that drove through it and it could be a very dangerous place. I was afraid of Mr Gosh, and this only added to the fear. I never met Mr Gosh, my fear of him was created by the stories made up and told to me by the kids in the neighborhood. I had heard if you went on to his property he had a shot gun he would fire in your direction. As proof? A sign hanging on the edge of his property that read, "trespassers will be shot." There was also a story about a building on his property, in the woods beside the corn field. The story involved two teenagers that had gone into the woods to that building to make out. Mr Gosh found them and shot them and their bodies were still there- haunting the place. This story was no doubt made up and told to us by the older boys, my sister's age, that lived by us. But, I hung on every word. I have a memory of going into the woods and seeing the building, but being too afraid to get near it. I'm not sure if I actually did that or if that memory is really just the images created in my head while hearing the story.

Not only did we have the stories about Mr Gosh, there was a rumor that there was a witch in our neighborhood as well. She lived on David Ct. The houses on David Ct had back yards that backed up to mine. So, I could see her house from my back door. Everyone was afraid of her, although I'm not sure how the story got started. Again, probably older boys. She lived alone, was rarely outside and had a gazing ball in her yard- probably used to predict fortunes or spy on the neighborhood kids. When we were on that street, we would stop and stare at her house, possibly waiting for her to fly out on her broom and grab one of us for her lunch. On Halloween, I was always scared to trick or treat at her house.  But, one year, with my friends beside me, I worked up the courage. When she came to the door, I was shocked. She was not horribly disfigured, she didn't have a green face and a wart on her nose. She was younger than my parents and had pretty blonde hair. She was pleasant to us and gave us candy. All of a sudden, I had to question the story of her being a witch. Was everything I knew to be true a lie? I came to the conclusion she most certainly was a witch...she was just in disguise. I knew for a fact she could change her apperance- since I had also heard she could turn herself into a bat- Clearly we had witches and vampires confused.

David Ct branched off of Old Jenean. On that street and Shelia, the next block over, lived the girls who went to St Malachy. We weren't fond of each other. It was like a little girl version of the Sharks and the Jets- or Bloods and Crypts for those not into theatre. Whenever we would walk down their street it was because we were looking for trouble. I had recently learned to cuss- thanks, no doubt, to being on the boy end of the neighborhood. So, whenever we would encounter each other, I would drop whatever "cool" words I had learned on them. Gina, however, always put me to shame. She was always quicker with a comeback, so she would win. My problem may have been after I ran out of new cuss words, I resorted to what I knew..." Baby, baby 2x4. Couldn't fit through the bathroom door. So, you did it on the floor. Licked it up and did some more" or "I know you are, but what am I?" Not really great comebacks. Eventually, I was tired of losing and the battle ended.

One of my favorite features of the greatest neighborhood on earth- the dirt track. These were paths that wound through the empty field by Mr Gosh's corn field. The boys would head out there to do tricks and be cool on their Mongooses. I would show up there with my Blue Angel bike. It had a banana seat with pictures of clouds, blue and silver streamers coming out of the handle bars, a basket with plastic flowers on it and a horn installed by my dad. It was a beauty- and probably why I had rocks thrown at me on occasion. The best part of the dirt track- it connected Northern Acres with Starkey, where my grandmother lived. I could head out there and ride over to grandma's house without having to get out on 267.

We eventually got old enough to ride our bikes "the long way" around the neighborhood- which consisted of Acre Ln turning into Jennifer Ln turning into Kathy Dr. It made one big circle that was about a half a mile. By that time, I had a 10 speed. It was a junior 10 speed because I was short- but a 10 speed nonetheless. That was about the time I made friends with the Denhart girls on Kathy Dr. Plus a boy named Chad Beck moved into the court across the street. We all had fun together. I can remember riding my 10 speed out of the neighborhood across the corn field to Yeager's (Phillips 66) to get candy with Chad. I didn't get caught, so the next time we went further and rode all the way to Kmart. Ya...then I got in trouble. Rather then going under 74, we went over it. Thankfully, it wasn't as large and busy as it is now and we made it back alive. Only to get killed when I got home.

But, my all time favorite part of Northern Acres- my house. I have memories of every inch of the house and every inch of the yard.







Where I learned to stand like this



Where Santa always found me



















Where I learned to play the piano...and copy my sister.




























Where my sister dressed up as Little Bo Peep to go to prom


We left northern acres the summer before I started Jr High. My parents built a house in Pebblebrook. I was excited to move. We were moving into a much larger house, so it seemed exciting. Until we got there. I wasn't old enough to drive yet, so I was stuck at home alone with none of my friends. I remember my dog, Sheena, going into a state of depression after we left Northern Acres. She had left the only house she had ever known and she wasn't adjusting well. I could sympathize. We were miserable together. Eventually, things got back to normal and I settled into my new house. Thankfully, I didn't have to completely abandon the neighborhood that I loved. Jami still lived there. So, throughout junior high and high school, I was still spending most of my time in my old neighborhood.

When I was 21, the house went up for sale. I was dying to see it. So, my husband (at the time) and I went to check it out. We pulled in the driveway and the pergola my dad had built on the front porch was gone. I started crying and it only got worse from there. We went inside and nothing looked the same. The house seemed so small and was so different. The kitchen had been remodeled. I couldn't even recognize it. I went into the family room and looked out the backdoor and the barn my grandfather had built had been moved and was sitting on top of Pepper's grave. At that point, I went from crying to sobbing- in front of this real estate agent who had no idea what was wrong with me. We went back into the bedrooms. I went into my sister's room first, then my parents. They looked so different. I went into my brother's room and the walls were painted black and there were cracks in the drywall. It was obvious the people who lived there didn't love the house as much as we had. I went through the Jack and Jill bathroom, my brother and I shared, into my room. The built in shelves and desk my dad had built were gone. By this point, I was sobbing so hard I couldn't speak. I made it out to the car and cried the whole way home.

I was at a complicated time in my life. I was married to someone who was so wrong for me. I got pregnant shortly after marrying him and started realizing that my child was not going to have the same kind of happy childhood I had. That isn't the way it is supposed to work. Going into my favorite house, that was the backdrop of all my happy childhood memories, reminded me of how I had failed this child. Hence the hysterical crying. Going into that house today, I would not have that same reaction. 

For years, before seeing the house in 1997, I would have recurring dreams of breaking into it to see what it looked like. At least once a year, I drive past it. I still miss it. I don't want to live there anymore. That was a different time in my life, that I can't recreate. Things change. I'm not a fan of change, but I've learned to adjust to it.


















Although I still love Northern Acres and cherish my house at 33 Acre Lane, I understand it wasn't the house that made my childhood memories so happy. It was my family.



And, for all of you who lived in Northern Acres with me, you are part of my favorite memories. I have a million more stories I could tell about my neighborhood and the kids who lived there with me. But, I'm stopping with these...for now :)

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

From my perspective...on the couch

This blog entry was written by my incredibly handsome and eloquent dog, Mr Rosco VonWilhelm Trotter. First a brief introduction. Rosco has reached the very wise age of 11. He is an esteemed food critic and a fan of the arts (sleeping, napping and resting).

And yes, I realize I am insane.



Good afternoon fellow blog readers-

I have very much enjoyed reading my mommy's blog and have now decided to test my skills as a writer. I wanted to share some important things I have learned in my long 11 years. Things I think could benefit everyone- even if they are of the human variety.

Although I am malodorous, have an unpleasant, continuous cough and love to eat sticks, poop and snow, don't let that deceive you. I believe I have some wisdom you will find beneficial. So, please take these little nuggets of wisdom and apply them to your own life.



Never do something yourself if someone else is willing to do it for you.
I have chosen to live by this mantra and it has always served me well. I prefer not to walk from one spot to another. No matter how short the distance. I have learned if I stand in one spot long enough, people lose their patience and put me on my magic dog bed that transports me everywhere I wish to go. I no longer have to make the long walk from the couch to the back door. I simply step upon my magic bed and get pulled wherever my heart desires. I really enjoy my Marlon Brando-esque figure. In order to keep it, I need to remain as immobile as possible.

The world is your snow cone
When it snows, go outside and eat until your heart is content. Snow is a delicacy that isn't available in the off season. Eat as much snow as you can, while you can. But, stay away from the yellow snow. Although I do enjoy poop on occasion, even I know to stay away from yellow snow.



The louder you bark, the easier it is for people to understand you and follow your orders.
If someone isn't responding quick enough or if they are not following your orders the way you had instructed, just bark louder. It always seems to help them understand that you need something and need it immediately. Continue to increase the volume until they respond.

Savor your snausages
There is nothing more enjoyable than snack time, except maybe breakfast time or dinner time. When you get your snack, don't gobble it down. Carry your snausage back to the rug and play with it for awhile. Throw it up as high as it will go and then pounce on it when it lands on the floor. Then, when you can't wait any longer, enjoy it one bite at a time.

Get at lest 22 hours of sleep a day.
This is probably the most important bit of wisdom I can give you. The correct amount of sleep is vital. I would prefer to get in more than 22 hours a day, but my busy schedule of pooping and eating doesn't always allow for it.  Make sure you set aside time to get your 22 hours in.


I think that covers all the high points. I may choose to write again in the future if I feel I have anymore jewels to pass along.

Until then, nap well my friends.

The Bachelor is a Tool

So, who out there watches the Bachelor? Season after season I keep coming back for more. Who wouldn't!? Crazy, drunken women crying at rose ceremonies? Yes, please!

I have really gotten quite good at predicting who they will end up with. By the first episode, I have already picked out who they will end up with...and I'm always right. The only Bachelor who has ever thrown me was Jason. I just knew he was going to pick Melissa -and technically, I was right. But, then he dumped her on the After the Rose show in what was, honestly, one of the most entertaining/horrifying things I've ever seen on tv. So, it was totally worth being wrong.

This season is a real gem. I watched Jake when he was on the Bachelorette with Jillian. I decided then that I didn't like him. So, when I found out he was the next Bachelor, I was disappointed. Here is my problem with Jake. He is nice, polite, gorgeous, in tune with his feelings and is very much a gentleman. I know, sounds perfect! But, but he makes me want to barf.



I am 34 years old and married. My rebellious phase is long since over. But, Jake reminds me of why I had a rebellious streak. He is a mother's dream. He reminds me of boys I knew when I was younger. They liked me, they were cute enough, and they were super nice. I couldn't stand them! Nice guys do finish last, because they are usually tools. Case in point- Jake Pavelka! There needs to be a balance between being nice and being masculine. If girls were only interested in someone who was nice, polite and in tune with their feelings- they would date their best friends. Testosterone and all the male behaviors that go along with it is what separates the sexes. Jake has shown me he doesn't even have a trace of testosterone. He has ovaries. I spend so much time cringing while watching the show! I just don't understand why these girls don't find him as irritating as I do? Man up Jake, then enough women will find you appealing and you will no longer have to date on national television.

But, these girls like him and everyone deserves love, so here is who I think he should chose- Tenley.



Tenley is just like Jake. They would be perfect for each other. They are both girls. They both love rainbows and unicorns. They are both saccharine sweet. They share the same values. On paper, this is a perfect match. Tenley is the female version of Jake. Well, technically Jake is the female version of himself, but you know what I'm saying.

However, even though they are perfect on paper. He isn't going to choose her. He is going to pick the wretched Vienna!

This woman is horrific. Not sure what he sees  in her, but I can tell from the way he talks about her, she is going to be his choice. Vienna is the opposite of Tenley. She is a spoiled baby- uh, who else was creeped out by her and her father's relationship when they were on her hometown date!? Ick! She has broken off one engagement, divorced one husband after stealing his money to get a boob job...while he was overseas. There are topless photos of her on the internet. She's a skank through and through. She has no redeeming qualities. Jake is a moron and he is intrigued by her, so he is going to pick her. Mark my words, because I have some sort of Bachelor based psychic ability...or maybe it is just because this is what happens every sesason. Nonetheless, they will be split up within a couple months. 

Tenley is the smart choice.  

But, on to next season, my vote for the next Bachelorette- Ali. This was who Trotter thought Jake was going to pick in the end. Yes, my husband loves the show too. It is his secret shame.

Prepare to be amazed at my psychic abilities when Jake picks Vienna and Chris Harrison announces that Ali is the next Bachelorette. My powers are something to be in awe of!


Monday, February 15, 2010

An Inconvenient Lie

I feel the need to drop some knowledge. My last post was light hearted. This one is long and boring. Just a warning.

A friend of mine's most recent FB status discusses the fact that by the end of the day today- all 50 states could potentially have snowfall. That includes Hawaii, Florida and California! Very bizarre indeed. Her status went on to accurately point out if even the tropical states have snowfall, how can the THEORY of global warming still be believed?

Another friend posted this link to explain how global warming is still possible. Here is the story- http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=123671588.

I digress for a moment to provide a little background about myself. I am both a Conservative and a Christian. Both groups can often be depicted as science hating rednecks. I suppose that could be true of certain individuals, but certainly not true of the group in general. I embrace science. I love to know how and why things work. I love having an explanation to something that seems unexplainable. So, when the above article explains that the warming of the oceans is creating more water vapor in the air- I'm on board. That makes sense. However he loses me after that. How does that explain all the snow? If the temperatures were elevated due to global warming- it would be rain we are being pounded with, not snow.

The article points out that you don't need really cold temperatures for it to snow. True, but we have them nonetheless. Indiana alone is 20+ degrees colder than our average for this time of year...with no end in sight. So, I don't need some celebrity who probably has less education and a lower IQ than I do telling me the planet is warming despite what the thermometer in my car is telling me. I trust the thermometer, not the celebrity.

The article points out that ‘climate’ is a long term trend. Again, agreed. However, you can't rule out the weather this year simply because it does not fit into your theory. This summer was the coolest we have had in decades. And we can all look out our window and see what is happening this winter.

Here is the bottom line, weather is cyclical. The trend has always fluctuated between cooling and warming. My dad was telling me recently that when he was in high school there was buzz similar to the buzz of global warming. At that time, everyone was convinced that earth was headed into another ice age because the temperatures were cooling. As we can now see, it was nothing more than conjecture. As this will turn out to be.

Let's take a look at the last 100 years of climate change...

1900 to 1940- the earth was in a warming trend

1940-late 1970s- cooling trend (claims made in the 60s of a new ice age)

1980-1998- warming trend

1998-current- cooling trend

The warming reached its peak in 1998 and we have been in a cooling trend ever since. So many government resources and tax payer dollars were thrown into this theory of global warming that they have no choice but to try and save face. And thankfully (for them), the American people (as a group) are uniformed and lazy. They do not seek the truth. They gladly swallow whatever crap the media, their favorite celebrity or their government feeds them. They don't look at trends or facts. However, it does not take a truth seeker to see the planet is not warming. You don’t have to understand facts or statistics or even science, just stand outside for 5 minutes.

But, back to my love of science. Let's travel back to 7th grade science class. Remember the scientific theory? Based on deductive reasoning and logic. Two more things that I cherish, yet both Conservatives and Christians are said to hate. So, for those of you who forget, here it is…

Step #1- Ask a question-

Is the planet warming?


Step #2- Do background research

See above facts of climate trends over the past 100 years.


Step #3- Construct a Hypothesis

Their hypothesis is that the planet is in a warming trend and will continue to warm until it kills us all.


Step #4- Test the Hypothesis using real world experiments

So far, global warming studies have actually shown to disprove their theory

This is the point where a good scientist would go back and alter their theory. Instead, these “scientists” have chosen to alter the facts to fit their theory. Using climate data that only shows the warming trend between 1980-1998. Ignoring the 100+ years of climate data to suggest that the warming was nothing more than a trend that ended in 1998. In the scientific world, this is called biased interpretation of the results. Had I done such shoddy work in my senior thesis required for graduation from college, I can assure you I would not have a degree.

So, then why are we continuing with this lie? Because there is money to be made.

1. Tell the masses their lives and planet are in danger.

2. Use junk science to support your lie.

3. Spread the propaganda until the masses buy into it.

4. Once they have accepted your lie, exploit them to put money in your pocket.

I’ll say it again, there is money to be made in global warming. Green products, hybrid cars, etc, etc. I am a lover of capitalism, so you won't find me complaining about businesses recognizing an opportunity and using it to make money. Here is my problem- government greed. Greed that is fed from the ever increasing tax dollars of hardworking people. Heard of the Cap and Trade bill? If not, look it up. It is astonishing to me that the government can take a ridiculous theory, dress it up as fact, sell it to the American people and then pass a bill taxing businesses and the American people on something that doesn't even exist.

Here is a very brief overview. The government is setting a cap on the amount of carbon that can be emitted nationaly. Companies then buy permits to emit CO2 (read: the government makes money). That cap will continue to get ratcheted down over time so that less and less carbon can be emitted, costing companies more and more (read: the government makes more money). The costs of these permits will obviously be passed on to consumers. Then to add insult to injury, not only will we the consumers be paying for these permits, we will also be taxed on all items we have in our homes that do not meet the government standard for energy efficiency (read: the government gets to take even more of our money). So, don't let them fool you. It all comes down to money.

A quick sidebar: They are using CO2 for the cap and trade legislature. Here is a funny fact- even the scientist who promote the theory of global warming are stepping away from the theory that it is caused by CO2. Here is some university level knowledge for you. Correlation does not imply causation. At one time, they thought they had found a correlation between CO2 and global warming. They, the supporters of global warming, like to believe that it is our fault the planet is warming rather than it being a normal course of nature that has gone on since the beginning of time. So, somewhere along the line, it went from a possible correlation between carbon emissions and a global warming trend, to an assumption that carbon emissions CAUSE global warming. The most important rule of scientific experiments- correlation does not imply causation! Just because there is a correlation between being tall and high self esteem does not mean that being tall CAUSES high self esteem. So, then why put out a piece of legislature that is based on science that even the scientists who created it no longer believe to be accurate...I think we already covered that.

The "scientists" CYA move to account for fact we are no longer in a warming trend and the temperatures are starting to cool? Call it climate change instead of global warming. Um...ya thanks scientists for exposing the secret of the changing climate. Something we've known for as long as weather has been documented. Well done! I'm glad to see my tax dollars being spent wisely.

So, here is the moral to this story. Don't buy into the hype. Do your own research. People will always sensationalize things that are ordinary. Global warming is no different. It is an unproveable hypothsis that has been adopted as fact. Just like the nonsense they were telling my dad's generation about us heading into an ice age. Sorry, Al Gore. The real inconvenience here is you and your propaganda. Sorry, the whole global warming thing didn't work out for you. At least you still have the invention of the internet to hang your hat on…oh, wait.

Monday, February 8, 2010

Time to get Loquacious

Alright world! Welcome to Jodi's life!

Living in the era of sharing your entire life through Facebook, I notice I have become an addict. An addict to shamelessly exposing my life to people I haven't seen since high school, people I barely know, friends of friends. I love posting the mundane details of my life and blurting out whatever fleeting thought runs through my head with absolutely no consequence. 

So, continuing with the addict metaphore, in an effort to increase my high, I have decided to start a blog. Not only do I still get to say whatever is on my mind to everyone on the planet with the same repercussions as if I had just said it to myself, I get to say so much more than I could on Facebook! No longer limited to 420 characters, I can be as verbose as I please! I will picture myself as an overweight, blogging version of Carrie Bradshaw. It will be spectacular! Instead of discussing the details of relationships and the sexual escapades of myself and my friends in NYC, I will be covering the thrilling topics of things I like on TV or why my neighbors still have their Christmas lights up and plugged in each night.

The first thing on my mind...Toddlers and Tiaras. I always feel grossed out after watching this show, but then why o' why do I have it set on season pass!? I find it cute and disturbing at the same time. I mean, I see the appeal of pageants. What little girl doesn't love getting dressed up like a grown up? Fake eyelashes, are you kidding me!?! I would have LOVED that! I STILL love that! But, when did it become acceptable to dress your 3 year old up like they are heading out to the club? Who was the first stage mom to dress her kid up in copious amount of makeup and enormous hair, slap a bikini on her and tell her to gyrate her hips on the stage and flirt with the judges by blowing them kisses? And how did all the other stage moms decide that was a splendid idea and they would turn their daughters into a pedophiles dream as well and it would become the pageant standard. That's the part I don't get.

I reached a conclusion this weekend after watching a Saturday night marathon (we can address later why my life is so lame that a Toddlers and Tiaras marathon was the most entertaining option on a Saturday night).  And that is- despite the fact that most of the mothers need a visit from CPS and most of the judges need a visit from Chris Hansen from Dateline NBC, I am going to continue to watch the show unapologetically. If only to uphold my tertiary responsibility to the children of these deranged mothers...but mostly for its entertainment value.